Here is part two of our love story. This is Matt's perspective. I thought I should also mention that we didn't write these sitting next to each other...he actually did his part at work and I did mine at home. It turned out to be a lot of fun writing down our memories and reminiscing on the past. We both feel that we may have left out some things but overall, we shared a lot and will always be able to remember these memories.
Our Love Story: Matt and Tanna
Part 2: Matt's View
Written by: Matt
I remember the exact moment I first saw Tanna. Even to this day it feels like it was only yesterday when that happened. It’s funny how your memory has the ability to remember things like that but yet you forget what you ate for breakfast this morning. But I remember that, clear as day, I remember that. It was at a basketball game at home. Do I remember the exact day? Exact minute? NO. I cannot even remember if we won that game or not. But the moment I saw her, to be honest, I couldn’t concentrate on basketball. I knew she was going to be there. My friend had told me that a couple of girls from Scott City were going to be at our game. Now you have to see the importance of this through the eyes of me to fully understand it. Up until then, I viewed Scott City girls as "higher up" than I was, and therefore, the chances of actually dating one was about as good as me making it as an NFL lineman. Nonetheless, the moment I saw her, I knew I wanted to get to know her. I remember standing near the bench in a timeout and looking up at her, and I swear to you she looked right at me and winked. Oh I’m sure she will deny it, but at that moment, I felt like she saw nobody else but me. And oh man was she pretty…. For the whole game it seemed like I could not take my eyes off of her. Her pretty brown eyes and her hair pulled up in a ponytail. She was about as cute as they come. But as soon as the game was over, she was gone just as fast as she had appeared.
I’m not sure whether she noticed me that night or not, and to be honest, it didn’t matter to me. I was going to go after her no matter what. So I did what any typical high school kid would do… I added her on MSN Messenger. Kids have it so easy these days. They have Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, and about any other social networking opportunity they can think of. Back then, we had MSN messenger. Tanna and I began to talk and get to know each other by talking to each other on MSN Messenger. I remember using song lyrics as my chat name because I thought I would be cool. She probably just thought I was weird. But anyways, we started out talking, just sort of getting to know each other, and she used to call me buddy. So I started calling her buddy. So whenever we start talking to each other it would be like, "Hey buddy!" I guess really that was the first nickname we had for each other. Oh many more would follow, I can tell you that. Some of them quite weird and outrageous. I remember for a while my nickname was Mappy. I guess it was a cute play on my first name and last name initial; Matt P. Turned into Mappy. For a while it was Matty, and P, and a whole lot of others. For a while I used to call Tanna just T. But yes, the nicknames were creative, numerous, and some of them still live with me today.
But anyways, I remember one time I was hanging out at a friends house, and in walks Tanna. It was the first time I had seen her since my magical encounter with her a while back at the basketball game. Only this time, she knew who I was, I mean, we were
buddies; we were like long time friends who really knew nothing about each other. But still, deep down, I was hoping she would come up to me and at least say hi. Needless to say, she did not, I was a little disappointed in that, but I did find out one important thing; she was shy. And heck, I was shy too, so right then I at least knew we had something in common.
After that second time I saw her, I knew that I liked her and I wanted to get to know her better. We continued just to talk on the computer still and I even used to have to sneak on the computer to talk to her. We began flirting with each other a little and I can tell you, I was nervous. It was almost like an adrenaline rush flirting with her because I would say something and I would wait for her to respond. And those few seconds before she responded felt like an eternity. Would she flirt back? Call me a weirdo? I was not really sure, but that was part of the rush. In fact, that is how we started dating too. I asked her on the computer. It seemed lame at the time, but heck, with the invention of online dating sites and their popularity, I was practically an innovator; a sheer genius.
After that, I began making the first of what would be hundreds, possibly billions of trips to Scott City to see Tanna. I remember counting down the hours and minutes until I was off work on the weekends to drive and see her. I was always pushing my curfew too. The drive to Scott City, when going the speed limit, took about 25 minutes. I, on the other hand, on a good day, could get back home in 10 minutes. My old Chevy Lumina was an old Grandma car, but on Saturday nights, when I did not want to be grounded for missing curfew, it transformed in to a Nascar speed demon.
We had dated pretty much all through high school, and I believe it was our sophomore year when Tanna transferred to Healy and went to my school. It was halfway through the year, but it was not too hard to get adjusted to her being there. She knew some of the kids in our class already, so it was pretty easy to make friends. It was nice having her in the same school. We got to see each other a little more than just on weekends. And when she became a cheerleader, she also got to go to all of my basketball and football games. One of the most memorable moments in high school occurred our senior year. We were both candidates for King and Queen for Fall homecoming. I like to think that we were one of the more popular couples in school, so I felt like our chances of winning King and Queen together were pretty good. But then again, you never really know. We were playing Weskan that game, and we were probably losing at the time, but halftime was pretty special. There were three candidates each for king and queen, and they loaded each pair into the back of a pickup and had a sort of parade across the football field before we all got dropped off at the 50 yard line. I was partnered with Tanna and her dad drove us down the field in the back of his truck. Something I can tell you is that I was nervous. I think kids try to play this Homecoming royalty off as no big deal, but deep down inside, everyone wants to win. I remember the smile I got when they called my name for homecoming king. So, I stepped forward and walked over to wait and see who they announced as homecoming queen. In the brief moments where I was queen-less, there was an endless amount of scenarios that were running through my mind. What if Tanna didn’t win? I knew that it was tradition to kiss the queen, but how could I do that to Tanna, especially since the other two queen candidates were Tanna’s friends. At that point, I think I would have rather of played football in just my underwear instead of kissing someone else other than Tanna. When Tanna’s name was called, a wave of relief came over me. She walked over to me and I place the crown on her head, gave her the flowers, and proceeded to kiss her in front of the whole football crowd. (Which, ironically, in my town is about 150 people.) But it was still a big deal. I will never forget that moment.
To this day, whenever I talk to other people about Tanna and me, I always mention that she was the pretty cheerleader who fell in love with the football player, and we were homecoming king and queen. It was pretty special.
I’m not 100% sure when I knew that one day we would get married, I just knew. It was pretty early in our relationship, maybe a year into it or so. But when you’re in high school, it seems like marriage is the last thing that is on your mind. But not me. For some reason, I just knew. But I believe there is a good reason why I knew. When I was younger I remember laying in bed sometimes and praying to God that he would show me the person that I would marry. But not just show me, but show me very early in life. So I truly believe that God made Tanna, and God made me, and He made us with the thought in mind that one day, we would both be together. I believe God was the one who told me that I would marry Tanna, and I was just following his direction. I remember notes that I would write to her (some of which she still has) in which I talk about how I can’t wait to marry her. If I wasn’t such a stud and cool guy in high school, stuff like that would have probably gotten me beat up. I’ll admit that I was a little sappy at times….I was love-struck, what can I say. But other people knew that one day, we would probably get married. I remember people teasing us that they will watch the twins for us when we get married. It was a pretty good joke that got a lot of use.
I knew my senior year that I wanted our relationship to last. I began thinking about asking Tanna to marry me. My family LOVED Tanna, so their support was very helpful. It’s a weird feeling going shopping for a ring when you are 18 years old and having NO idea what you are doing. But I was able to overcome that feeling of fear and excitement. Now the only questions that ran through my mind were, "When should I ask?", and "Would she say yes?" I had asked Tanna’s dad for permission to ask her, and he had said yes, so that was one very important think checked off my list. I remember the day I asked her; it was Thursday, December 22, 2005. We were watching a movie, and I knew she knew something was up. I had put the ring in a small Christmas bag and I had told her that we should open a few presents early. Of course, she agreed. When she opened the bag and pulled out the ring case, I grabbed it from her and opened it up. She was laying down on the floor at the time, which was good because she probably would have fainted. Anyways, I got down and asked her to marry me. She said No… The end. But wait, your probably wondering. Your right, she did say yes. Lucky for her she just said yes to one of the biggest decisions in her life, not to mention she was going to be stuck with me for the rest of her life. I would like to think that wasn’t the reason she began crying a little. I am very bad at telling the story of how I proposed. It was sort of like an out of body experience because I was so nervous, so I really don’t recall very much. It was like I was in a dream. But no matter what anybody tells you, it was very romantic.
Our wedding was very special also. We had worked all summer up until July 8th to get everything nice. We planned on having the wedding in my back yard, so a lot of work was to be done. Along with help from my whole family, and Tanna, we planted trees, put in a pond, and built a wrought iron fence along the property to decorate things really nice. It was very casual and relaxing. I wore a white hawaiian shirt and Tanna wore her traditional white wedding dress. And all of the groomsmen were wearing colored Hawaiian shirts. It was a very relaxing day and as stressful as it was to plan, I think it went well and we all had a good time.
I know there are hundreds and hundreds of funny and cool stories that I could have written about. Maybe someday I will be able to get those down on paper as well. Hopefully, what I have written so far will shed some light on the relationship Tanna and I had before we got married; how we met, a few funny little stories, etc… I guess I will end on 10 facts about Tanna and I that you may not know about us.
Ten Facts about Tanna & I That You May Not Know About Us:
#10. I used to be terrified of Tanna’s dad. And who wouldn’t when you find out your girlfriend’s dad is 6’5"?
#9. The first time I met Tanna’s mom, Tanna introduced her as her aunt. To this day I am not sure why she pulled that one on me.
#8.Tanna used to steal my shirts and used them to dress her stuffed animals. Even today, she has one of them still dressed in one of my shirts.
#7. Although I have lived in Minnesota, Tanna has been to the Mall of America…with MY family….and I have NOT.
#6. I used to always end the letters I wrote to Tanna with "Y.O.A.O", which stood for "Your One And Only".
#5. I remember the exact moment when I accidently farted in front of Tanna for the first time. Probably one of the most terrifying moments in my life. FACT.
#4. I remember numerous occasions in the first months of us dating that I would refuse to use the bathroom at her house, no matter how bad I had to go. Call me weird I guess.
#3. I’m pretty sure Tanna kept her Flip Flop obsession a secret until it was too late.. Yea, I think I was duped.
#2. I can picture the exact spot and moment when I kissed Tanna for the first time. I can draw you a picture if you want.
#1. I love reminding Tanna that she is stuck with me for the rest of our lives. When she smiles about it, I am almost positive that she smiles because it is a good thing, and not a smile that is saying, "just wait until you see what I have in mind to get rid of you." But in all honesty, I am truly thankful that God has put Tanna in my life. It has been almost four years since we’ve been married, but I know that time is just a sliver compared to the wonderful years that we have ahead of us.
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Oh, the things your wife makes you do! And there are our very own versions of "Our Love Story". I hope we have many, many more pages to add to this in the future!
Xoxo,
Tanna